Friendships

I was once told by someone who meant a lot to me that friendship changes as you grow older. During many of life’s transitions you lose friends and gain new ones and over time your friendship group becomes smaller. I seemed to have a lot of friends growing up, I made friends quite quickly. That certainly does change as you grow up.

At the age of 22 I can say those words that I was once told were true, I have fewer friends but the friendships I have now are stronger, they are the friends who know me well, they are my support and most importantly I feel happy around them. Friends who will sit in a coffee shop and chat for hours about nothing and everything and help put life back into perspective.

During your university years you learn a lot about friendships, you meet some pretty damn amazing people. Some that you will end up becoming close friends with, I think people don’t realise that at university in my opinion, most of the people you meet are acquaintances, you have to talk to them and get on with them as you see them everyday so don’t really have a choice but when university finishes they will only be friends with you on Facebook most likely and some you will probably never see or speak to again.

One thing that I have learnt over my 22 years is that its okay to outgrow friends, it’s not that you hate them, like I wish all those friends the best in life and I love everyone of them. I have outgrown many things, people, friends, family members and honestly, I haven’t felt freer. If you are not happy in a friendship its important to let yourself go as much as you hate it, you will feel a lot better and most importantly happier. That won’t make you a bad person.

Having friends that will support you and are happy for your success are so important, and they should be cherished. Since starting my blog I have met some amazing people and bloggers which makes me so happy. Thankyou to each one of you that has boosted my confidence in blogging! You rock each one of you! I think I’m going to leave it here.

 

Love Mariam

When you feel like giving up!

defaultThere was a time during this year where I felt like giving up on life. I was in the middle of my masters which I found really really hard. I went to my tutor and said, “I want to quit” this was just at the end of my first semester. It wasn’t just the fact that I found it hard, I just felt so shitty about every aspect of my life and I just wanted to do nothing. The constant feeling, what are you doing with your life? Surely you should have it figured out by now?. During that time, I felt constantly down and sad all the time. I was constantly avoiding my responsibilities, procrastinating on my uni work and I fell so far behind. I would come home from uni or work and just sit on my bed watching tv. I don’t think I have ever felt so down. I kinda gave up on a lot, I would literally just sit at home and would only go out if it was to work or uni.

It took me a good few months to feel better and happier again, and that change had to come from me. I went and spoke to a tutor who specialised in my subject area and she gave me some pretty amazing advice. So, lesson 1 – Talk to someone about your problem/issue or whatever is making you feel shitty. That in my opinion is the first step to feeling better about yourself and it lifts a HUGE weight from your shoulders. I also quit a job that I absolutely hated and I never felt happier giving in my letter of resignation. Lesson 2 – Don’t be in a job that doesn’t make you happy. Honestly, there is nothing worse than waking up every day and dreading your day ahead. If you are living for the weekend, you are not living your life to the fullest, you are simply “Surviving” and you are wasting your life away.

I was recently talking to a friend the other day and she said to me “I really don’t know what I’m doing with my life”. Which I replied, “no nor did I couple months back”, and it made me think knowing that you are not the only person in the world to feel “like this” now and again kinda makes you feel a tiny bit okay. Right?. I know life may not turn out the way you have planned it but there are better opportunities out there which you may be better at. Let me try and explain it, if you take a wrong turn in life and end up being happy and successful, what if you never took that wrong turn?. We are most likely at exactly where we are supposed to be in life.

Remember! “The moment you’re ready to quit is usually the moment right before a miracle happens”. Miracles do exist!

Love Mariam

5 things to do when having a bad day

We all have bad days now and again; I’ve had my share of those where I feel hopeless and “just want to go home curl up in my bed and cry”. Yeah! I know it sucks!. This week hasn’t been great. There is no specific reason for it. I just felt so down and a little bit lost as to what I’m doing with my life. I had my room redecorated this week and my things are still all over the place which is stressing me out (I have OCD). After a bad day, I think it is so important to relax yourself and finish the day off on a positive. Here are 5 things you can do if you are having a bad day.

  1. Take a bath: Take a nice hot bath relax those tense muscles, it’ll do wonders.
  2. Put your phone away: After you’ve come home from a stressful day at work, detach yourself from the social media world for a bit. Especially before you sleep, replace this with a book or listen to some music.
  3. Go out for a run: Get outside go for a walk or a run even a jog, de-stress yourself consider joining the gym. Exercise sure as hell helps.
  4. Catch up on some of your favourite TV shows: I’m sure we all have shows recorded that we don’t have time to watch, or even sit in bed and watch something on Netflix.
  5. TEA: Tea makes everything better, make a good cuppa tea and relax.

And guys please remember – Life doesn’t give you anything that you can’t handle.

 

Love Mariam

Why I started blogging

Why did you start blogging? This is a question I’m sure every blogger gets asked. So, I wanted to share my little story as to why I started blogging. I started blogging as a form of procrastination from doing my dissertation. I spent hours looking through blogger Instagram accounts, their amazing pictures and reading their blogs and I really enjoyed it, so I thought let’s give it a go and if it doesn’t work out I will stop. I started blogging just under two months ago now and I absolutely love it. It distracts me from many things and keeps me busy. I still feel very new and I’m still trying to figure everything out so bear with me guys.

I feel as though I haven’t been on top of my blogging recently as I’m trying to juggle my dissertation, my job, writing and keeping up with all my social media accounts. But bear with me and I hope to be up to date and be on top of my blogging very soon. One thing that I have loved and I am still loving is the support from all the blogging community Thank you!. I have struggled to come up with new ideas for my blogs but I think I am slowly getting there and I can’t wait for everyone to read.

I want to finish off with a question, I was at work the other day and someone asked me “What do you blog about?” and I said lifestyle. In which they replied, “So what’s included in lifestyle?” and I really struggled to reply to that and thought and replied, “anything really”. If you are a lifestyle blogger how do you answer or would answer that question?.

 

Love Mariam

Growing up..

I’ve been struggling to come up with ideas for my blog posts, I’ve started writing a few but I didn’t feel as though they were ‘me’. Yesterday I submitted my part 2 for my dissertation, and I was thinking about how fast this academic year has gone. It has been one of the hardest years so far, I have struggled, I’ve been on the brick of giving up and I have been at an all time low. All those experiences that I faced have made me into a totally different person. I have grown as an individual, I have grown in confidence and I couldn’t be any happier. I finally feel like I have kinda started to succeed in life. It used to really depress me looking at Facebook, Twitter and Instagram posts of the people I used to go to school with who now have kids, their own houses and are in content relationships at the age of 22. Here’s me who has achieved none of the above.

Like I’ve said I couldn’t be any happier and prouder of where I am today. It has been a really hard an eye opening year and I have lost many people and friends along the way and gained some pretty damn amazing people. I still keep in contact with those people, but I have learnt that’s it’s ok to outgrow certain people, relationships and friendships. For me to say this a year ago it would have broke my heart but today, I can say I’m happy and ok with it. I’m actually quite liking the person that I’m now becoming. I have stopped being scared of the things that scared me, I limited myself so much I didn’t take opportunities because I was scared of failure and wasn’t confident in myself. In the last couple of months, I have grabbed pretty much every opportunity that has came my way!

I’m going to leave it there so Thankyou for reading.

 

Love Mariam.

 

 

 

Liebster Award!

Ok! so I have been nominated for the Liebster Award! This makes me so happy, my first blogging award which I didn’t know existed and I had to google what it is. I feel like this award acknowledges my acceptance into the blogging community. Thankyou Natalie Hanson for the nomination. This has given me a little more motivation to continue blogging, so thankyou means a lot to me

Like me some of you guys might be thinking what is the ‘Liebster Award’ so let me tell you about it first. It is an award which exists on the internet and is given to bloggers by other bloggers. The concept of this award is to connect and promote other bloggers who are new to the blogging community.

Rules for the Liebster Award

  1. Thank the blogger who nominated you for the award and make sure you acknowledge them.
  2. Answer the 11 questions that you were asked by the blogger who nominated you.
  3. Nominate 11 other new bloggers to receive the award.
  4. Create 11 new questions for your nominees to answer.

Questions and Answers

  1. Out of all the countries you have visited which one did you like the most?

Turkey! Why? Because not only is Turkey overwhelmingly gorgeous, its cities and landscapes are incredibly diverse. The food, culture, museums, beautiful beaches, amazing bazaars and amazing people. A must visit country once in your lifetime.

  1. Why did you start blogging?

Well, I started blogging as a form of procrastination from doing my uni work, I followed all these amazing bloggers on twitter and Instagram and I thought lets have a go. It wasn’t just that, I kinda wanted somewhere to document my thoughts and honestly it’s the best thing I have ever done.

  1. Who is your role model?

JK Rowling! She taught me to remain positive when you feel like you have lost all hope, she is living proof that having hope even during your darkest days can help you find light.  JK Rowling started with nothing and chased after her dreams this alone makes her an amazing role model. She never gave up on her dreams. She is my inspiration, she sparked my imagination and my creativity. I have looked up to JK Rowling without even realising for most of my life.

  1. What advice would you give to a new blogger?

Be you! Be honest! You never know who you might inspire along the way. Enjoy what you write about. Its okay if you don’t know when you start off, you don’t have to get it perfect, you will get there. Be yourself don’t try to be something or someone you are not! People are going to love you for who you are.

  1. What are your favourite TV/Netflix Series?

Gossip Girl and Pretty Little Liars can’t think of anymore that I have watched from beginning to end. But these two I am absolutely obsessed and can watch on repeat.

  1. How long have you been blogging for?

I have been on and off for 2 years, but properly since May 2017 so not long so I’m new to the blogging community so bear with me while I figure everything out.

  1. What are the 3 countries you would love to visit and why?

Egypt! Why? Because ever since school I remember sitting in history lessons and dreaming about visiting those pyramids. I like history and I think it would be an adventure to explore Egypt.

Australia! Why? I think Australia is a country we all dream of visiting. My best friend is currently in Australia and she is loving life out there. I think she is planning to live there so I will have an excuse to visit.

Canada! Why? Because it looks beautiful!

  1. Name one long-term and short-term goal for your blog?

Long-term goal: I want my blog to be successful I want to inspire people, I hope people enjoy reading my posts and I hope to make someones day.

Short-term goal: To make my blog look all cute and amazing.

  1. What is your favourite book?

HARRY POTTER! I’m the biggest Harry Potter Geek.

  1. What do you love about yourself?

I’m funny, I make myself laugh, and other people (Still wondering why I don’t have my own comedy show yet).

  1. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?

Hopefully in the process of completing my PhD, a lecturer at University and have a successful blog.

Nominee’s Questions

  1. Why did you start blogging?
  2. Tell us a little bit about yourself?
  3. Where do you see yourself in 5 years time?
  4. What is your favourite film?
  5. If you were president, what first thing would you do?
  6. What is the most random thing you have watched on Netflix all the way through?
  7. Do you believe in ghosts?
  8. What age do you feel right now and why?
  9. If you won the lottery what would you do?
  10. If you could travel anywhere, where would you go and why?
  11. What do you feel most proud of?

My Nominations Go To..

  1. Charlotte – https://charlottesmakeupblog.wordpress.com/
  2. Dee – http://www.morningcoffeewithdee.com/
  3. Chloe – https://chloegreenwayblog.wordpress.com/
  4. Eden – https://everythingedenblogs.wordpress.com/
  5. Kira – https://smarterfriends.wordpress.com/
  6. Girltoblogger – https://girltoblogger.com/
  7. Rebecca Eden – https://rebeccaedenwhiteley.wordpress.com/
  8. Lauren – https://laurenheap1997.wixsite.com/heapsofme
  9. Marilyn – http://carefreeandcurly.wordpress.com/
  10. Bryoni – https://walkinmysteps.blogspot.co.uk/
  11. Mag – https://magonlineblog.wordpress.com/

Ok! So this is it! Make sure you guys tag me into your posts so I can have a look and comment.

Well done!

Love

Mariam x

Dealing with change

I have a list of topics which I want to blog about and I keep putting ‘dealing with change’ off because I never know what to say. So here goes.

Hi, my name is Mariam and I don’t deal with change very well! I like to know where I’m going what I’m doing and what I will be doing next. I like to have everything mapped out in lists and ideas. If this is not done I struggle, my anxiety kicks in and I feel constantly stressed. I would do everything I can to avoid uncertainty in my life.

There have been quite a few time times in my life where I have felt uncertainty, times where I didn’t have a clue what I am doing with my life. I think when you are at the end of a certain chapter in your life that’s when you feel uncertainty and the feelings of change hit you hard. In the past few years, months and weeks I have had a lot of change in my life and I may not have dealt with it really well but I think I did ok. Its ok to not know what’s happening and its ok to feel lost for a bit you are going to find your way again. Feeling lost means, something better is waiting for you. There are a few things that have occurred to me about dealing with change and I want to share these with you:

  1. Learn to differentiate between what you can and can’t control.

The most important lesson that I have learnt over the past few years is, to differentiate between what I can and can not control. We need to learn to accept that there are some things in life we can not control and are out of our hands. If you are sat worrying about something you can’t control, take a few minutes to examine the things you do have control over. You may not be able to prevent some things from happening, but you can prepare for it.

  1. Take care of yourself!

Make sure you take care of yourself your basic needs, your mental health is just as important as your physical health. Its ok to ask for help, be gentle with yourself. Talk to others who are going through a similar experience, share experiences. I think talking to other people made me realise that I am not alone. Take a little time out everyday to enjoy yourself or relax. Have a routine, if I don’t go for a morning run I feel out of place all day. Make sure you prioritise your basic needs, these will help when dealing with change.

  1. Keep a diary or a journal

Keeping a diary to document your changes and experiences helps a lot, this has been so helpful for me. It helped me realise that the experiences I turned down was due to fear and being scared that I might not be able to ‘cope’ and wasn’t able to do it. Writing your feelings down on paper is a step in the direction of coping with change. Writing down in a journal or diary is a safe place to express yourself.

Someone once said to me ‘If you want something go for it, don’t wait because you are to scared. Your fear might hold you back from the best thing you could ever have!’. I’m not saying that you will wake up tomorrow morning and be ready to face every single change that comes into your life. It takes time and that it OK!

 

Love

Mariam